Yesterday was hard for me. I opened my computer to the news of several instances of sexual abuse reported (within the church), including the claims about Josh Duggar’s gross indiscretionsand his subsequent confession. And something in me sunk, particularly because of this statement by his parents: “Even though we would never choose to go through something so terrible, each one of our family members drew closer to God.”
While I’m grateful that this travesty produced fruit and closeness, as a victim of sexual abuse, I am skeptical. Though we may not know the details of recovery during these years, it’s easy to sweep something away by pointing to God in a statement.
But it’s not so simple to get over sexual violation. Recovery takes years of stops and starts, and forgiveness is not a one-time easy decision, particularly if it’s demanded or expected right away for the sake of peace and putting something shameful behind you.
Often we see in communities of faith that victims are admonished to be grace-like, offering instant forgiveness to their abuser as if it could be doled out like a trinket or candy. And when someone is pressured to “be like Jesus” and forgive swiftly, often this pressure causes harm.
Sexual violation cuts deeply. It eats away at worth, esteem and personhood. I believe it is one of Satan’s greatest weapons against humanity, paving the road for future self-destructive behavior, suicidal thoughts, feelings of utter worthlessness, sexual dysfunction, guilt, shame and any manner of disorders. And moving beyond it is excruciating, long and sometimes debilitating.
Instant forgiveness and “putting it behind you” only delays the healing process, a journey that only begins by stating the awfulness of the violation. By shoving the story under the rug for the sake of your family or church community, you may save the perpetrator’s reputation and the reputation of those near him or her, but you lose important ground in becoming free.
An untold story never heals. It just festers until it comes out in unwanted behavior.
Easy “forgivism” may gloss over the terrible situation in the short term, but it reinforces to everyone that the egregious, soul-siphoning sin committed against the victim was trivial, easy to get over. It forgets Jesus’ strong admonition that “whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.”
Of course I’m not advocating bitterness. And I fully welcome grace. God has the most beautiful ability to make beauty from ashes, and we are most like Him when we extend forgiveness. But that journey must be allowed to take the course in due time, not rushed, not forced, not prescribed.
I first forgave the teenage boys who molested me as a five-year-old when I was in college, a decade and a half after they spent a year violating and demeaning me. In that moment, I believed, naively, that I was done, that I would never have to revisit the pain of that year.
Instead, I found that healing happens in layers.
When I got married, my sexually abused past roared to life, and, once again, I had to choose forgiveness. I had to seek more counseling. My husband had to choose to forgive what those boys did too. Even today, when I suffer a flashback of memory, triggered by yesterday’s news, I have to breathe out forgiveness. I finally had the courage to write it all down 41 years post-abuse. But even so, today I am shaky and mad.
Those who know me see great redemption (thanks to Jesus, who took on my sin, the perpetrator’s sin, and all sexual sin upon his shoulders). They see joy. They see a changed life. But I would be perpetrating a myth if I told folks it was simple and easy to get past it.
I don’t know the dynamic of the Duggar home other than what’s portrayed on TV and through their public statements yesterday. I hope and pray that they are working through this very dark issue and finding hope and healing through honesty and authenticity. But I also hope that this situation doesn’t shame victims into thinking they’re less-than if they struggle still to forgive the person who stole their innocence.
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Former Arkansas Gov. Mike Huckabee, a 2016 Republican presidential candidate, declared his support on Friday for reality television’s Duggar family after the eldest child, Josh, admitted to molesting underage girls, including some of his sisters, when he was a teenager.
In a Facebook post, Huckabee said that Duggar deserves forgiveness for his actions.
“Josh’s actions when he was an underage teen are as he described them himself, ‘inexcusable,’ but that doesn’t mean ‘unforgivable,'” Huckabee said. “He and his family dealt with it and were honest and open about it with the victims and the authorities. No purpose whatsoever is served by those who are now trying to discredit Josh or his family by sensationalizing the story.”
Huckabee also said that the revelations did not diminish the Duggars’ Christianity.
“They are no more perfect a family than any family, but their Christian witness is not marred in our eyes because following Christ is not a declaration of our perfection, but of HIS perfection,” he said.
The Arkansas family’s evangelical Christianity is a major theme of TLC’s “19 Kids and Counting,” the reality TV show about their lives.
Josh Duggar, 27, is now married with three children and a fourth on the way. He confessed to molesting the underage girls in a Facebook post on Thursday, after InTouch Weekly broke the story earlier that day.
Duggar also resigned from his position at the Family Research Council, a conservative anti-gay organization, on Thursday.
Jim Bob, the Duggar patriarch, waited over a year after Josh confessed to molesting the young girls before contacting the police, according to a 2006 police report obtained by InTouch Weekly. The police were unable to conclude their investigation before the three-year statute of limitations was up, so they did not pursue the charges further.
Twenty criminal investigations have been launched into sexual abuse allegations in Switzerland against Roman Catholic priests and laymen working for the church since 2010, a media report said on Monday.
But this compares with 172 suspected sexual offenders from within the church reported by church authorities themselves, suggesting that many cases are not being actively pursued, the ATS news agency said.
Certainly, numerous suspects are already dead and cases go back as far as 1950.
But the Conference of Swiss Bishops (CSB) said that other suspects have shown themselves nowhere to be found.
It is therefore impossible to know whether possible offenders may be again in contact with potential victims, ATS said.
The low number of investigations being pursued — less than one in eight reported cases — can be explained by the fact that church dioceses have provided only “very incomplete” information for the 1950-1980 period, Joseph Bonnemain, a priest and member of a special commission set up by the CSB, is quoted as saying.
The commission is tasked with looking into “sexual abuse in the ecclesiastical context”.
People close to families and friends of abused victims maintain certain members of the clergy are covering for their colleagues, ATS said.
But the transmission of information about reported sexual abuse cases can only happen if those who have been abused agree to step forward.
Bishop Charles Moreod of the Lausanne-Geneva-Fribourg diocese urged people communicate to him the cases that are not being pursued, the state broadcaster RTS reported.
“I said and say again that every accusation made against a priest or a lay person working for the church and still living will be immediately brought to the attention of justice officials.”
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Manny Waks stands on a street corner in Park Slope, Brooklyn. He drank so much the night before that he doesn’t remember what time he got back to his hotel room. His voice is hoarse and his eyes are hidden behind a pair of black sunglasses. Waks is not sure why he got so wasted, but it could have something to do with his mission today — confronting the man who, according to Waks, sexually abused him as a child more than 25 years ago.
It’s just after midday on May 10, a spring Sunday morning. The sun has finally burnt through the early morning mist and blossoms litter the sidewalk on the cross streets. Waks leans against the brick wall of a diner beneath the shadow of a red awning. Directly across the street, a few doors down, he can see the apartment of Velvel Serebryanski.
Men and women walk along the avenue, sipping coffee or carrying groceries. Children glide by on scooters. They would probably be oblivious to this 39-year-old man if it were not for his entourage — a video cameraman, a sound technician holding a boom microphone, a photographer shooting stills, a director shouting orders and a beefy off-duty security guard standing, arms folded, off to the side.
The crew are here to shoot “Breaking the Silence,” the follow-up to an award-winning documentary film about Waks called “Code of Silence,” which aired in Australia in 2014.
Waks is the center of attention because he was the catalyst for an Orthodox sex abuse scandal that erupted in Australia in 2012, leading to the arrest and jailing of several men for sexually assaulting boys during the 1980s and 1990s. The abuse scandal led to a government commission investigation and the resignation of several senior Chabad rabbis.
As a result, Waks and his parents suffered years of shunning and intimidation until they were eventually hounded out of the country.
I am wearing a pair of headphones that are tuned in to a lapel microphone clipped to Waks’s shirt. The director, Danny Ben-Moshe, a British citizen who lives in Australia, asks what Waks hopes to get out of this encounter.
In the best case scenario, Waks says, he and Serebryanski will have a civil conversation in which Serebryanski shows remorse and Waks persuades him to go to Australia to face up to his actions. The worst case scenario, Waks says, would be if he doesn’t see Serebryanski at all.
Waks and the crew wait to see if Serebryanski enters or leaves the apartment building. After about an hour, Waks can’t take it any longer. He sees a neighbor step out of an adjacent building with some trash. Approaching him, Waks asks whether he has children and if he knows Serebryanski. “There’s a pedophile next door,” Waks tells the man, who disappears back into his building.
Waks walks up the stoop of Serebryanski’s four-story building. “I’m sick of waiting,” he says.
The director, cameraman and photographer are behind Waks now as he tries the buzzer and pulls on the door handle. He leans over the railing towards the window of the ground floor apartment that he believes is his abuser’s and he shouts:
“Velvel!”
“Velvel!”
“Velvel!”
A window, protected by an iron grill, is open. A brown curtain shifts and flutters back in the breeze.
“Velvel! We will just wait a little bit more,” Waks shouts. “Why don’t you come out?”
Frustrated, Waks walks down the stoop and opens the gate to a tiny front yard. The director and cameraman rush in behind Waks as he shifts a trash can aside to get closer to the window.
“I saw you!” Waks shouts. “Velvel! Do you want me to contact all your neighbors? Let them know who you are?”
Waks is sure he has seen Serebryanski. But Serebryanski won’t come to the window, leaving Waks impotent, standing among the trashcans, shouting in through the window.
Ben-Moshe, the director, asks: “Manny, is there anything you want to tell him?”
Waks shouts Serebryanski’s name again.
“Manny,” Ben-Moshe says, “He’s not coming out.”
The commotion attracts neighbors. Jose Torres, wearing a white T-shirt and a New York Yankees baseball cap turned backward, emerges from the building next door. Torres says his father is the superintendent of Serebryanski’s building.
“He’s a pedophile,” Waks tells Torres about Serebryanski, adding that Serebryanski was never convicted. “I wanted to talk to him about that.”
Torres says he is glad that Waks is letting people know. Torres grew up on the block and he says that there are a lot of children around.
“My intention isn’t to push him out,” Waks says. “He deserves to live.”
Waks has blocked many memories from his childhood. But he says he remembers vividly the first time he was sexually abused, an incident Waks logged almost 10 years after the fact in a 1996 report to Victoria police.
It was the first night of Shavuot, when ultra-Orthodox men stay up all night studying Torah.
Most of the more liberal Jews had left the synagogue on the campus of the Yeshivah Centre in Melbourne, Australia. The men and boys who remained were dressed in the black trousers and white shirts common among followers of the Hasidic Chabad-Lubavitch movement.
Despite the late hour, Waks says there were still dozens of people in the building. Some were listening to a rabbi’s lecture, some were studying in small groups or on their own. Others were simply shmoozing or taking a quiet break.
Around 1 a.m., Waks, who was then about 12 years old, decided to head upstairs to the women’s gallery on the first floor of the synagogue to get some rest. As he climbed the stairs, he says he sensed someone following him.
He caught a glimpse of the man and recognized him as Serebryanski, the son of one of Chabad’s principal emissaries to Australia, Rabbi Aaron Serebryanski.
Velvel Serebryanski was more than 10 years older than Waks. Waks says Serebryanski often stared at him in synagogue and made him feel uncomfortable.
When Waks reached the women’s section there was another boy, a few years older than Waks, who was already laid out on one of the pews, apparently asleep. Waks says he lay down and pretended to fall asleep too. The next thing he felt was Serebryanski’s hand. First on Waks’s leg. Then traveling up toward his groin.
Waks’s new life as an advocate for abuse victims began in 2011. That June, Waks read a story in a prominent Australian newspaper, The Age, about Australian police attempts to investigate abuse allegations against David Kramer.
At the time, Kramer was serving a seven-year prison sentence in America for sodomizing a Jewish boy in St. Louis, Missouri.
Kramer was a former Jewish Studies teacher at the Yeshivah Centre’s primary school. Australian police were following up on reports that Kramer had abused several boys in the Yeshivah Centre between 1989 and 1992. Only later would police learn that senior figures in Chabad Australia hustled Kramer out of the country, which is how he ended up in America.
Waks knew only too well about Kramer. Waks has six sisters and 10 brothers. Two of those brothers were abused by Kramer.
Waks’s father, Zephaniah Waks, had already spoken to police about those incidents.
Now, Waks contacted police to say that not only did he believe that Kramer had many more victims, he also wanted to talk to police about another former Yeshivah Centre employee, David Cyprys.
Cyprys impressed the kids at the Yeshivah Centre.
He was the security guard whom you could tag along with as he locked all the doors in the building. He was a regular karate instructor and sometime youth leader who evicted non-Jewish kids who trespassed on the campus basketball court after hours.
Cyprys began abusing Waks when Waks was about 13 years old, he said. It started with inappropriate touching during karate lessons. Then it graduated to fondling in the white van Cyprys used to transport kids home from karate classes.
One of Waks’s most vivid memories is of Cyprys letting him into the Yeshivah Centre’s ritual bath, known as a mikveh, one winter night.
The two undressed and waded into the warm water. Cyprys said he wanted to teach Waks floating techniques. He helped Waks raise his body to the surface of the water. Then, he sexually assaulted him.
Waks carried these memories of Serebryanski and Cyprys with him for decades.
Waks believes they were the primary reasons why he rebelled against Hasidic Judaism during his teens. He started acting out in class. He left the Yeshivah Centre voluntarily and got kicked out of his next yeshiva in Sydney.
Waks immigrated to Israel when he was 18 and served in the Israel Defense Forces. He lived in Israel, as a secular Jew, for six years. After returning to Australia in 2000, he completed his high school education and, after that, he earned a degree in international relations.
Waks’s first job was as head of the B’nai B’rith Anti-Defamation Commission. Soon after, Waks was appointed a vice-president of The Executive Council of Australian Jewry.
Waks’s new, public life taught him the power of the media. He often considered disclosing his abuse but he and his wife decided it wasn’t the right time. They had three young children. It seemed too soon.
When Waks read about the Kramer investigation in 2011, he couldn’t contain himself any longer. He knew that The Age’s story about Kramer was just the tip of a decades-long abuse cover-up.
Waks had heard that the police were looking into other cases. He knew that if he, as a Jewish communal leader, broke his silence and spoke openly about being abused, it might give others the courage to come forward.
So Waks contacted The Age. He gave an interview saying that he had been abused by two Orthodox men in Melbourne without naming either of his abusers. He appealed for all victims, not just of Kramer, to contact the police.
Waks told the newspaper: “The main reason for the silence is the culture in this segment of the Jewish community to keep these types of issues quiet.” He said that he personally knew many abuse victims who had not come forward because of the stigma associated with abuse.
More victims stepped forward, providing evidence that top Chabad officials in Australia mishandled decades of abuse. Allegations were ignored or covered up. At least one molester was spirited out of the country.
Less than two months after Waks spoke to The Age, Australian police arrested Cyprys.
In 2012, Waks founded a not-for-profit organization called Tzedek, which means justice, to support victims of abuse as well as to counsel Jewish organizations on ways to prevent abuse and to protect children.
The following year, Cyprys was sentenced to eight years in jail for raping a 15-year-old boy and for sexually assaulting eight others. That same year, Kramer, who had been extradited to Australia from America, was sentenced to three years in jail for sexually assaulting four boys.
I have been to Velvel Serebryanski’s apartment in Brooklyn before.
When the Australian abuse scandal began to unfold in 2012, I wrote a story for the Forward about Serebryanski and Waks.
Serebryanski, who goes by the name Zev Sero in New York, did not deny the allegations. But he declined to speak on the record.
(When I returned to his apartment on May 15 this year to see if he would be willing to speak on-the-record about Waks’s allegations, Serebryanski did not appear to be home. He did not respond to an email sent to his Facebook account.)
As I watch Waks try to coax Serebryanski out of his apartment, I wonder whether he would have had more success if he had come without a camera crew.
Waks returns to Serebryanski’s open window.
“I know you can hear me,” Waks shouts. “Your neighbors know now. The question is, should I go to shul and let them know? You can come out and talk.”
A man who looks to be in his late 50s walks up the stoop to Serebryanski’s building. Waks asks if he knows Serebryanski. I cannot make out the entire conversation through my headphones, but it sounds as though the neighbor isn’t pleased with Waks’s behavior.
When another neighbor, a man who looks to be in his 20s, walks up the stoop, Waks tries to engage him in a conversation about Serebryanski. The man turns his key in the door. “I don’t want to talk to you, man,” he says, as he slips inside.
Waks acknowledges into the lapel microphone that it’s uncomfortable for people to be confronted on their doorstep by a man with a camera crew telling them their neighbor is a pedophile.
Soon, the older of the two neighbors re-emerges from the building. He is wearing a faded red baseball cap. He sits on the stoop, opens a blue ring binder and proceeds to page through it as though it is perfectly natural that a few feet away there is a camera crew and a man telling strangers about a pedophile on the block.
Waks approaches the man. The neighbor says he will talk to Waks, but not on camera.
The microphone picks up the conversation, but it’s hard to hear the man’s responses. He sounds skeptical about Waks’s claims that Serebryanski is a pedophile. When Waks reveals that he is one of Serebryanski’s victims, the man asks how long ago the abuse took place.
The conversation continues. Then Waks says: “Really? I have just told you there is a pedophile here and you are not concerned?”
Waks tells the neighbor he is trying to raise awareness about abuse.
“So you are not here as an objective journalist,” the neighbor responds. He accuses Waks of not being truthful.
Waks walks away. He is shocked that the neighbor seems to be suggesting that Waks should just let the issue rest.
“I don’t think I can let it be,” Waks says. “But it seems [Serebryanski] has got the support of a neighbor at least.”
Waks heads up the street to talk to a group of Hispanic people, including Torres, who have gathered near the corner.
I could follow but, for now, I am more intrigued by the neighbor.
It took a government inquiry to fully expose the failure of Chabad’s rabbinic leadership in Australia.
Over 10 days this February, the Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sex Abuse heard from a succession of victims and their families. They testified about the Yeshivah Centre’s unwillingness to take abuse claims seriously, about rabbinic pressure not to go to the police, about the intimidation of families who chose to speak out.
Leading rabbis were grilled over their handling of claims, the shunning and intimidation of victims and their attitudes toward abuse.
At the heart of the scandal was Rabbi Yitzchok Dovid Groner, the longtime head of the Yeshivah Centre, who died in 2008.
The commission heard how, facing a backlash from victims’ families, Groner bought Kramer a plane ticket to Israel in the early 1990s. The commission also heard how Groner ignored numerous complaints about Cyprys during the 1980s and 1990s.
One mother testified that she reported Cyprys abusing her son in 1986 and was assured by Groner that he would take care of it. She later learned that Cyprys continued to abuse her son for a further two years.
In another case, a student who complained of being abused by Cyprys was expelled from the school. Meanwhile, Cyprys, who pleaded guilty to indecently assaulting the boy in 1992, continued to be employed as a security guard at the Yeshivah Centre for an additional decade.
As a result of what transpired at the commission hearings, several leading rabbis lost their posts.
Rabbi Abraham Glick, who was principal of Yeshivah College between 1986 and 2007, when much of the molestation took place, resigned his position as a teacher at the school.
Rabbi Meir Shlomo Kluwgant, president of the Organisation of Rabbis of Australasia, stepped down from his post after a text message he sent to the editor of the Australian Jewish News, calling Zephaniah Waks “a lunatic on the fringe,” was read out to the commission.
Glick and Kluwgant did not respond to requests for comment.
In Sydney, Rabbi Yosef Feldman resigned as a director of the Yeshiva Centre. In an email, Feldman pointed the Forward to press coverage reporting his position that he had resigned not because he did anything wrong, but as a result of his testimony to the commission being misrepresented in the media.
Rabbi Yehoshua Smuckler, the current principal of Yeshivah College, did not respond to a request for comment.
Waks saw the commission not just as a vindication of his campaign, but as a form of closure.
The way Waks sees it, he was made to suffer three times. First when he was abused. Then, when the abuse was covered up. Finally, by communal intimidation and harassment.
“Closure means the ability for me to move forward without being stuck too much in the past, letting go of a lot of the hurt, pain and suffering,” Waks says.
‘I think they should leave him alone and not harass him,” says Serebryanski’s neighbor, who declines to give his name.
He tells me that Serebryanski has been “a good member of the community” for more than 20 years. “To fly halfway around the world to shame the guy seems inappropriate to me,” the neighbor says.
Most media stories about Orthodox sex abuse focus on the tight-knit, insular, ultra-Orthodox community. But this neighbor is most probably a liberal, Jewish — he recognized the Forward when I identified myself — resident of Park Slope, a famously progressive section of Brooklyn.
“To come to the building and start making allegations to neighbors suggests someone very subjective in viewpoint and someone who wants to harass more than enlighten or caution,” the neighbor said.
As the neighbor is speaking I notice that the curtain in Serebryanski’s window is no longer fluttering. It is pulled right back into the darkest recesses of the shadow as though by a piece of string. Or a hand.
In the dark I think I can make out Serebryanski’s profile. The neighbor, who is facing me, says Waks can’t simply turn up “throwing inflammatory terms around to people he doesn’t know.”
I step away from the stoop to find out how Waks’s mission is going. Waks tells me that the Hispanic neighbors say at least a couple of kids in the area have complained that Serebryanski stares at them and makes them feel uncomfortable.
“My concerns are heightened and justified,” Waks says. But he admits there is only so much he can do.
The curtain returns to fluttering in the breeze. Waks resumes telling any neighbors who come out onto the street that they are living next door to a pedophile.
“One of the intended actions was successful,” Waks says, referring to his warning to neighbors.
It is obvious that Serebryanski will not come out of his apartment to speak to Waks or to the show’s director. After about a half hour, the team moves back to the street corner.
Waks says he pities Serebryanski. He has always thought of him as a sad individual.
Waks said as much when he filed his police report in 1996 detailing how both Serebryanski and Cyprys had abused him.
Nothing came of the report. Waks still can’t quite understand why the police didn’t investigate Cyprys further, especially in light of his guilty plea a few years earlier. “I do regard it as a failure of sorts by Victoria Police,” he says.
Serebryanski is a different matter. He was already living in America by that time.
That night in the women’s gallery of the Yeshivah Centre, according to Waks’s police report, Serebryanski told the boy: “This isn’t for a place of worship.”
Serebryanski led Waks to a bathroom on the same floor where the assault continued.
In his report to police, Waks couldn’t recall how many more times Serebryanski abused him. He thought it was maybe a couple more.
Two decades later, Victoria Police are still interested in speaking to Serebryanski. In August, 2014, Waks received a letter from Victoria Police saying they were investigating Waks’s allegations.
There wasn’t enough evidence to extradite Serebryanski. But if he set foot in Australia, the police said, he would be arrested and interviewed.
That August was the same month as the premier of “Code of Silence.”
The documentary film followed Waks for 18 months as he waged a personal struggle against the abuse cover-up at the Yeshivah Centre.
The film also focused on the consequences for Waks’s family, in particular his father, Zephaniah, who was denounced by communal leaders, shunned in synagogue and who lost most of his friends.
By the film’s end, Manny had relocated to France and his mother and father had moved to Israel.
The film’s producers recognized that the dramatic testimony delivered at the Royal commission hearings in 2015 might provide material for a follow-up documentary.
The ABC, which had aired the first film, commissioned a sequel.
In addition to the hearings, the new film would follow Waks as he took a global anti-abuse initiative to Jewish communities overseas, meeting abuse victims in America and confronting his first abuser, Serebryanski.
Waks arrived at the Forward offices in New York on May 8, a couple of days before his visit to confront Serebryanski in Brooklyn.
Waks is tanned and about medium height and build. He was wearing a blue check shirt and black-rimmed glasses.
Waks is unassuming, warm and friendly. When he discusses sex abuse he is, more often than not, earnest rather than angry. He is so used to being interviewed that it is sometimes hard to tell whether you are speaking to Waks the individual or Waks the campaigner. It was harder still that particular day, since most of our conversations were filmed for the documentary.
Waks said he was not sure what to expect from his potential confrontation with Serebryanski.
He said that Cyprys had never apologized for what he did to victims. Waks wondered whether, if Serebryanski acknowledged what he had done and apologized, Waks might not want to “pursue justice” through the courts.
A couple of days after Waks’s attempt to confront Serebryanski, I catch up with Waks by phone. He is still in New York. But that evening he is flying with the film crew to Los Angeles where he will meet with abuse advocates and victims.
Waks also plans to meet with a Jewish group to discuss financing for a study to look at Jewish communal resources for preventing and dealing with abuse.
The ripples from the Australian abuse scandal reach California too.
In 2001, Mordechai Yomtov, a former student of the Yeshivah Centre who was accused of abusing a younger student there, was sentenced to one year in prison after pleading guilty to molesting three boys, aged 8 to 10, at a Chabad school in Los Angeles.
Last year, a Los Angeles resident, Daniel Hayman, pleaded guilty in an Australian court to indecently assaulting a 14-year-old boy in the late 1980s in Sydney. In return for his guilty plea, Hayman received a 19-month suspended sentence.
While Waks was in New York, he also met with Australian victims of abuse and with Jewish groups. He even secured an audience with Rabbi Mendel Sharfstein, the director of operations at Chabad’s world headquarters in Brooklyn.
Following the Royal Commission hearings, Chabad published a lengthy statement, expressing remorse for the children who were harmed and reiterating the importance of reporting abuse to the police.
Waks said he was impressed with the Chabad leadership’s openness to discuss the issue with him in New York. He said that he hopes to see even more willingness to combat abuse in the future.
Although he wasn’t even halfway through his journey, Waks said the trip so far had been physically, emotionally and mentally exhausting. But he felt compelled to continue.
“The show must go on,” Waks said. “I don’t feel I have a choice.”
Full article here: http://forward.com/news/national/308681/25-years-later-manny-waks-is-on-a-quest-to-confront-his-abuser/
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26 May 2015The conviction of a prominent member of the Manchester Jewish community for sexual abuse is of immense significance. Though certainly not the first such case, it sends an unequivocal message that nobody, in any part of our community, can expect to commit these horrific crimes and escape prosecution. The longstanding view of the Chief Rabbi and Beth Din has been restated a number of times in recent years, but this is an opportune moment to reinforce that position once again.
I would like to commend the victims and others who withstood tremendous pressure and gave evidence. I hope that their courage will inspire others to come forward in the future.
This kind of abuse is a stain on all of society and we are no less vulnerable to the scourge of sexual crimes than any other community. Perpetrators of these crimes destroy lives and every one of us shares in the responsibility to protect victims and potential victims. As such, we must not only ensure that all incidents are reported to the police without delay, but that we must do everything in our power to promote a culture whereby reporting such crimes to the relevant statutory authorities is supported and encouraged.
It is imperative that communities across the country have robust child protection policies in place and should act in consultation with the statutory services. Every community should review its policies and procedures regularly and consider what else can be done – we can always do more.
Further to previously held training seminars for Rabbis, I will be writing this week to Rabbis across the country, advising them of a mandatory, dedicated seminar that the United Synagogue is organising on behalf of its communities, in order to better prepare Rabbis to identify and respond to incidents of child abuse in their communities and to reinforce the importance of being vigilant at all times. In addition, I am meeting with victims of abuse and campaigners in this area to seek views from them as to what more can be done to better protect vulnerable people in our communities.
May we all have the courage to seek out and challenge cruelty and injustice from within our midst.
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Fallout continues to jolt Catholic institutions across Minnesota as a landmark law permitting lawsuits for older claims of clergy sex abuse marks its second anniversary this week.
Just last week the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis removed a priest from active ministry in Richfield — bringing to 69 the number of accused priests it has identified since the law was passed.
Earlier this month a young Hibbing priest was arrested and jailed for sexual misconduct with three girls, reflecting Catholics’ heightened awareness of contacting law enforcement, not just the church.
A Catholic nun and her religious order were sued last month by a Shakopee man for sexual improprieties, a sign of the law’s widening impact.
The current trial of former priest Francis Hoefgen in Dakota County — a rare criminal prosecution of a priest for child sex abuse — was sparked by an alleged victim emboldened by the new law.
“This is the biggest shake-up in the history of the Catholic Church in Minnesota,” said Charles Reid, a professor of civil and canon law at the University of St. Thomas. “The church has always been a powerful institution in the state — just look the height of the cathedral compared to the State Capitol. What we’re seeing is a humbling of that.”
Child Victims Act
44 Total lawsuits filed across the state of Minnesota
175 Lawsuits plus notices of claims against Archdiocese
100 Priests in lawsuits and notices of claims statewide
180 Priest names made public by dioceses, archdiocese, St. John’s Abbey
Victim attorney estimates
In a statement Friday Archbishop John Nienstedt said the archdiocese is committed to helping abuse victims.
“Our first priority is helping victims and survivors, and we are committed to doing that regardless of any statute of limitations,” he said. “The Archdiocese is committed to providing compensation and services in a fair and just manner to those who have been harmed, and making sure nothing like this ever happens again.”
Historic new law
The 2013 Minnesota Child Victims Act lifted the statute of limitations for child abuse cases, opening a three-year window for people to sue the church over incidents that happened years ago.
Until then, individuals sexually abused as children had until age 24 to sue their abusers. But victims’ advocates had argued it could take years, even decades, for a survivor to come to terms with the trauma.
Today nearly 50 lawsuits have been filed in Minnesota’s five dioceses and the archdiocese, implicating about 100 priests, according to lawyers for alleged victims. The archdiocese is facing about 175 lawsuits or notices of claims, said victims’ attorney Jeff Anderson.
The people stepping forward say they were abused inside churches, schools, family homes and beyond from about the 1950s to 2010. They were altar boys, Catholic school kids, youngsters whose parents welcomed priests into their homes. For many, the opportunity to seek civil justice has been life changing.
“It was like a 1,000-pound elephant lifted off my chest,” said Doug Devorak, a Shakopee man who sued the Diocese of New Ulm last month, stating he had been repeatedly abused by a sister at St. Michael’s Catholic School in Madison in the 1960s.
The legal action — or threat of — has become an engine of institutional change. It has forged new protocols for church response to abuse complaints and, in some cases, made public documents that prove the abuse was not a lie.
More than 60,000 pages, ranging from personnel files to psychological reports, have been released by the archdiocese and the Winona diocese, said Anderson. Every diocese’s website now lists contact information for abuse victims. Click on the archdiocese website, for example, and the box in the top corner states “Your First Call Should Be to Law Enforcement.”
It’s a sea change from the church practice of trying to quietly settle abuse claims out of court and out of sight of law enforcement, victims said.
“The awareness factor is now front and center,” said Bob Schwiderski, a longtime advocate for abuse survivors. “We now know you are supposed to report to law enforcement if you suspect abuse.”
Meanwhile, about 180 priests have been publicly identified by the church as credibly accused child sex offenders, attorneys said. One priest on the Crookston Diocese list, the Rev. Joseph Jeyapaul, was extradited from India and pleaded guilty to criminal sexual misconduct Friday.
Bankruptcy complications
In year one of the Child Victims Act, a Ramsey District Court judge ordered the archdiocese to release the names of credibly accused priests it had held since 2004, as well as its internal files revealing its handling of abuse complaints.
Year two has seen lawyers focused on prying loose similar documents outstate — as well as on the fallout from the archdiocese bankruptcy filing.
The January bankruptcy suspended future lawsuits and trials that could have put priests, victims and archdiocese officials in the witness stand. Now alleged victims of archdiocese priests are urged to step forward, not to sue but to be part of a settlement.
That deeply disappoints Patrick Noacker, attorney for a man whose archdiocese lawsuit was slated for trial just days before bankruptcy was filed. Said Noacker: “The process was short-circuited by bankruptcy. Bankruptcy doesn’t protect kids. Trials protect kids.”
The bankruptcy, coupled with the steady revelations about abuse, has been difficult for many Catholics in the pews, especially the older faithful, said the Rev. Tom Walker, of Saint Ambrose of Woodbury.
“The result for some people is they don’t know what to think,’’ said Walker. “It’s left them confused and even angry about what’s happened.’’
The bankruptcy also created two different deadlines for filing claims, depending on where victims lived. The judge granted the archdiocese’s request for an Aug. 3, 2015, deadline for archdiocese victims. Individuals suing priests anywhere else in the state have until May 2016. Ditto for individuals suing religious orders.
It was the first time in the nation that a court had shortened the deadline, prompting criticism of unequal justice for Minnesota victims.
Challenges remain
In spite of its successes, the law cannot address other key protection issues, such as the training and evaluation of seminarians, chancery leadership and the church’s “culture,” said Jennifer Haselberger, the archdiocese lawyer whose revelations of chancery coverups coincided with the new law.
Anderson said his biggest disappointment is the “seeming lack of rigor and vigor of the Ramsey County attorney’s office.” He said he’s turned over thousands of pages of files on priest offenders.
“To date, none have been charged,” said Anderson. David Clohessy, national director of Survivors Network of Those Abused by Priests, urged the church to release not just the names of accused priests, but details. When and where did the abuse happen? When did the church become aware?
In the year ahead, expect to hear more about clergy misconduct outstate and in religious orders. Bankruptcy settlement details. More clergy names revealed. More victims stepping forward.
“What you’re seeing is a cascading of justice,” said Sen. Ron Latz, DFL-St. Louis Park, the chief Senate author of the law. “We already knew there were a lot of cases out there that just hadn’t surfaced yet, because of the statute of limitations in effect. We didn’t appreciate how many cases there were, and how many people would step forward.”
Mary DeMuth May, In faith communities like the Duggars, abuse victims are encouraged to be filled with grace. It’s not that simple., Washington Post
/in Uncategorized /by SOL ReformIt’s never simply over.
Yesterday was hard for me. I opened my computer to the news of several instances of sexual abuse reported (within the church), including the claims about Josh Duggar’s gross indiscretionsand his subsequent confession. And something in me sunk, particularly because of this statement by his parents: “Even though we would never choose to go through something so terrible, each one of our family members drew closer to God.”
[Josh Duggar apologizes amid molestation allegations, quits Family Research Council]
While I’m grateful that this travesty produced fruit and closeness, as a victim of sexual abuse, I am skeptical. Though we may not know the details of recovery during these years, it’s easy to sweep something away by pointing to God in a statement.
But it’s not so simple to get over sexual violation. Recovery takes years of stops and starts, and forgiveness is not a one-time easy decision, particularly if it’s demanded or expected right away for the sake of peace and putting something shameful behind you.
Often we see in communities of faith that victims are admonished to be grace-like, offering instant forgiveness to their abuser as if it could be doled out like a trinket or candy. And when someone is pressured to “be like Jesus” and forgive swiftly, often this pressure causes harm.
Sexual violation cuts deeply. It eats away at worth, esteem and personhood. I believe it is one of Satan’s greatest weapons against humanity, paving the road for future self-destructive behavior, suicidal thoughts, feelings of utter worthlessness, sexual dysfunction, guilt, shame and any manner of disorders. And moving beyond it is excruciating, long and sometimes debilitating.
[What happens to TLC’s ’19 Kids and Counting’ after the Josh Duggar allegations?]
Instant forgiveness and “putting it behind you” only delays the healing process, a journey that only begins by stating the awfulness of the violation. By shoving the story under the rug for the sake of your family or church community, you may save the perpetrator’s reputation and the reputation of those near him or her, but you lose important ground in becoming free.
An untold story never heals. It just festers until it comes out in unwanted behavior.
Easy “forgivism” may gloss over the terrible situation in the short term, but it reinforces to everyone that the egregious, soul-siphoning sin committed against the victim was trivial, easy to get over. It forgets Jesus’ strong admonition that “whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to stumble, it would be better for him to have a heavy millstone hung around his neck, and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.”
Of course I’m not advocating bitterness. And I fully welcome grace. God has the most beautiful ability to make beauty from ashes, and we are most like Him when we extend forgiveness. But that journey must be allowed to take the course in due time, not rushed, not forced, not prescribed.
I first forgave the teenage boys who molested me as a five-year-old when I was in college, a decade and a half after they spent a year violating and demeaning me. In that moment, I believed, naively, that I was done, that I would never have to revisit the pain of that year.
Instead, I found that healing happens in layers.
When I got married, my sexually abused past roared to life, and, once again, I had to choose forgiveness. I had to seek more counseling. My husband had to choose to forgive what those boys did too. Even today, when I suffer a flashback of memory, triggered by yesterday’s news, I have to breathe out forgiveness. I finally had the courage to write it all down 41 years post-abuse. But even so, today I am shaky and mad.
[Huckabee backs Josh Duggar, slams those ‘sensationalizing’ molestation allegations]
Those who know me see great redemption (thanks to Jesus, who took on my sin, the perpetrator’s sin, and all sexual sin upon his shoulders). They see joy. They see a changed life. But I would be perpetrating a myth if I told folks it was simple and easy to get past it.
I don’t know the dynamic of the Duggar home other than what’s portrayed on TV and through their public statements yesterday. I hope and pray that they are working through this very dark issue and finding hope and healing through honesty and authenticity. But I also hope that this situation doesn’t shame victims into thinking they’re less-than if they struggle still to forgive the person who stole their innocence.
In faith communities like the Duggars, abuse victims are encouraged to be filled with grace. It’s not that simple
Danial Marans, Mike Huckabee Argues Josh Duggar Deserves Forgiveness, Huffington Post
/in Uncategorized /by SOL ReformFormer Arkansas Gov. Mike Huckabee, a 2016 Republican presidential candidate, declared his support on Friday for reality television’s Duggar family after the eldest child, Josh, admitted to molesting underage girls, including some of his sisters, when he was a teenager.
In a Facebook post, Huckabee said that Duggar deserves forgiveness for his actions.
“Josh’s actions when he was an underage teen are as he described them himself, ‘inexcusable,’ but that doesn’t mean ‘unforgivable,'” Huckabee said. “He and his family dealt with it and were honest and open about it with the victims and the authorities. No purpose whatsoever is served by those who are now trying to discredit Josh or his family by sensationalizing the story.”
Huckabee also said that the revelations did not diminish the Duggars’ Christianity.
“They are no more perfect a family than any family, but their Christian witness is not marred in our eyes because following Christ is not a declaration of our perfection, but of HIS perfection,” he said.
The Arkansas family’s evangelical Christianity is a major theme of TLC’s “19 Kids and Counting,” the reality TV show about their lives.
Josh Duggar, 27, is now married with three children and a fourth on the way. He confessed to molesting the underage girls in a Facebook post on Thursday, after InTouch Weekly broke the story earlier that day.
Duggar also resigned from his position at the Family Research Council, a conservative anti-gay organization, on Thursday.
Jim Bob, the Duggar patriarch, waited over a year after Josh confessed to molesting the young girls before contacting the police, according to a 2006 police report obtained by InTouch Weekly. The police were unable to conclude their investigation before the three-year statute of limitations was up, so they did not pursue the charges further.
Mike Huckabee Argues Josh Duggar Deserves Forgiveness
Sex abuse by priests little pursued: report, The Local
/in International /by SOL ReformTwenty criminal investigations have been launched into sexual abuse allegations in Switzerland against Roman Catholic priests and laymen working for the church since 2010, a media report said on Monday.
But this compares with 172 suspected sexual offenders from within the church reported by church authorities themselves, suggesting that many cases are not being actively pursued, the ATS news agency said.
Certainly, numerous suspects are already dead and cases go back as far as 1950.
But the Conference of Swiss Bishops (CSB) said that other suspects have shown themselves nowhere to be found.
It is therefore impossible to know whether possible offenders may be again in contact with potential victims, ATS said.
The low number of investigations being pursued — less than one in eight reported cases — can be explained by the fact that church dioceses have provided only “very incomplete” information for the 1950-1980 period, Joseph Bonnemain, a priest and member of a special commission set up by the CSB, is quoted as saying.
The commission is tasked with looking into “sexual abuse in the ecclesiastical context”.
People close to families and friends of abused victims maintain certain members of the clergy are covering for their colleagues, ATS said.
But the transmission of information about reported sexual abuse cases can only happen if those who have been abused agree to step forward.
Bishop Charles Moreod of the Lausanne-Geneva-Fribourg diocese urged people communicate to him the cases that are not being pursued, the state broadcaster RTS reported.
“I said and say again that every accusation made against a priest or a lay person working for the church and still living will be immediately brought to the attention of justice officials.”
Sex abuse by priests little pursued_ report – Switzerland’s news in English
Paul Berger, Manny Waks Travels Around World To Confront His Alleged Abuser, Forward
/in International /by SOL ReformManny Waks stands on a street corner in Park Slope, Brooklyn. He drank so much the night before that he doesn’t remember what time he got back to his hotel room. His voice is hoarse and his eyes are hidden behind a pair of black sunglasses. Waks is not sure why he got so wasted, but it could have something to do with his mission today — confronting the man who, according to Waks, sexually abused him as a child more than 25 years ago.
It’s just after midday on May 10, a spring Sunday morning. The sun has finally burnt through the early morning mist and blossoms litter the sidewalk on the cross streets. Waks leans against the brick wall of a diner beneath the shadow of a red awning. Directly across the street, a few doors down, he can see the apartment of Velvel Serebryanski.
Men and women walk along the avenue, sipping coffee or carrying groceries. Children glide by on scooters. They would probably be oblivious to this 39-year-old man if it were not for his entourage — a video cameraman, a sound technician holding a boom microphone, a photographer shooting stills, a director shouting orders and a beefy off-duty security guard standing, arms folded, off to the side.
The crew are here to shoot “Breaking the Silence,” the follow-up to an award-winning documentary film about Waks called “Code of Silence,” which aired in Australia in 2014.
Waks is the center of attention because he was the catalyst for an Orthodox sex abuse scandal that erupted in Australia in 2012, leading to the arrest and jailing of several men for sexually assaulting boys during the 1980s and 1990s. The abuse scandal led to a government commission investigation and the resignation of several senior Chabad rabbis.
As a result, Waks and his parents suffered years of shunning and intimidation until they were eventually hounded out of the country.
I am wearing a pair of headphones that are tuned in to a lapel microphone clipped to Waks’s shirt. The director, Danny Ben-Moshe, a British citizen who lives in Australia, asks what Waks hopes to get out of this encounter.
In the best case scenario, Waks says, he and Serebryanski will have a civil conversation in which Serebryanski shows remorse and Waks persuades him to go to Australia to face up to his actions. The worst case scenario, Waks says, would be if he doesn’t see Serebryanski at all.
Waks and the crew wait to see if Serebryanski enters or leaves the apartment building. After about an hour, Waks can’t take it any longer. He sees a neighbor step out of an adjacent building with some trash. Approaching him, Waks asks whether he has children and if he knows Serebryanski. “There’s a pedophile next door,” Waks tells the man, who disappears back into his building.
Waks walks up the stoop of Serebryanski’s four-story building. “I’m sick of waiting,” he says.
The director, cameraman and photographer are behind Waks now as he tries the buzzer and pulls on the door handle. He leans over the railing towards the window of the ground floor apartment that he believes is his abuser’s and he shouts:
“Velvel!”
“Velvel!”
“Velvel!”
A window, protected by an iron grill, is open. A brown curtain shifts and flutters back in the breeze.
“Velvel! We will just wait a little bit more,” Waks shouts. “Why don’t you come out?”
Frustrated, Waks walks down the stoop and opens the gate to a tiny front yard. The director and cameraman rush in behind Waks as he shifts a trash can aside to get closer to the window.
“I saw you!” Waks shouts. “Velvel! Do you want me to contact all your neighbors? Let them know who you are?”
Waks is sure he has seen Serebryanski. But Serebryanski won’t come to the window, leaving Waks impotent, standing among the trashcans, shouting in through the window.
Ben-Moshe, the director, asks: “Manny, is there anything you want to tell him?”
Waks shouts Serebryanski’s name again.
“Manny,” Ben-Moshe says, “He’s not coming out.”
The commotion attracts neighbors. Jose Torres, wearing a white T-shirt and a New York Yankees baseball cap turned backward, emerges from the building next door. Torres says his father is the superintendent of Serebryanski’s building.
“He’s a pedophile,” Waks tells Torres about Serebryanski, adding that Serebryanski was never convicted. “I wanted to talk to him about that.”
Torres says he is glad that Waks is letting people know. Torres grew up on the block and he says that there are a lot of children around.
“My intention isn’t to push him out,” Waks says. “He deserves to live.”
Waks has blocked many memories from his childhood. But he says he remembers vividly the first time he was sexually abused, an incident Waks logged almost 10 years after the fact in a 1996 report to Victoria police.
It was the first night of Shavuot, when ultra-Orthodox men stay up all night studying Torah.
Most of the more liberal Jews had left the synagogue on the campus of the Yeshivah Centre in Melbourne, Australia. The men and boys who remained were dressed in the black trousers and white shirts common among followers of the Hasidic Chabad-Lubavitch movement.
Despite the late hour, Waks says there were still dozens of people in the building. Some were listening to a rabbi’s lecture, some were studying in small groups or on their own. Others were simply shmoozing or taking a quiet break.
Around 1 a.m., Waks, who was then about 12 years old, decided to head upstairs to the women’s gallery on the first floor of the synagogue to get some rest. As he climbed the stairs, he says he sensed someone following him.
He caught a glimpse of the man and recognized him as Serebryanski, the son of one of Chabad’s principal emissaries to Australia, Rabbi Aaron Serebryanski.
Velvel Serebryanski was more than 10 years older than Waks. Waks says Serebryanski often stared at him in synagogue and made him feel uncomfortable.
When Waks reached the women’s section there was another boy, a few years older than Waks, who was already laid out on one of the pews, apparently asleep. Waks says he lay down and pretended to fall asleep too. The next thing he felt was Serebryanski’s hand. First on Waks’s leg. Then traveling up toward his groin.
Waks’s new life as an advocate for abuse victims began in 2011. That June, Waks read a story in a prominent Australian newspaper, The Age, about Australian police attempts to investigate abuse allegations against David Kramer.
At the time, Kramer was serving a seven-year prison sentence in America for sodomizing a Jewish boy in St. Louis, Missouri.
Kramer was a former Jewish Studies teacher at the Yeshivah Centre’s primary school. Australian police were following up on reports that Kramer had abused several boys in the Yeshivah Centre between 1989 and 1992. Only later would police learn that senior figures in Chabad Australia hustled Kramer out of the country, which is how he ended up in America.
Waks knew only too well about Kramer. Waks has six sisters and 10 brothers. Two of those brothers were abused by Kramer.
Waks’s father, Zephaniah Waks, had already spoken to police about those incidents.
Now, Waks contacted police to say that not only did he believe that Kramer had many more victims, he also wanted to talk to police about another former Yeshivah Centre employee, David Cyprys.
Cyprys impressed the kids at the Yeshivah Centre.
He was the security guard whom you could tag along with as he locked all the doors in the building. He was a regular karate instructor and sometime youth leader who evicted non-Jewish kids who trespassed on the campus basketball court after hours.
Cyprys began abusing Waks when Waks was about 13 years old, he said. It started with inappropriate touching during karate lessons. Then it graduated to fondling in the white van Cyprys used to transport kids home from karate classes.
One of Waks’s most vivid memories is of Cyprys letting him into the Yeshivah Centre’s ritual bath, known as a mikveh, one winter night.
The two undressed and waded into the warm water. Cyprys said he wanted to teach Waks floating techniques. He helped Waks raise his body to the surface of the water. Then, he sexually assaulted him.
Waks carried these memories of Serebryanski and Cyprys with him for decades.
Waks believes they were the primary reasons why he rebelled against Hasidic Judaism during his teens. He started acting out in class. He left the Yeshivah Centre voluntarily and got kicked out of his next yeshiva in Sydney.
Waks immigrated to Israel when he was 18 and served in the Israel Defense Forces. He lived in Israel, as a secular Jew, for six years. After returning to Australia in 2000, he completed his high school education and, after that, he earned a degree in international relations.
Waks’s first job was as head of the B’nai B’rith Anti-Defamation Commission. Soon after, Waks was appointed a vice-president of The Executive Council of Australian Jewry.
Waks’s new, public life taught him the power of the media. He often considered disclosing his abuse but he and his wife decided it wasn’t the right time. They had three young children. It seemed too soon.
When Waks read about the Kramer investigation in 2011, he couldn’t contain himself any longer. He knew that The Age’s story about Kramer was just the tip of a decades-long abuse cover-up.
Waks had heard that the police were looking into other cases. He knew that if he, as a Jewish communal leader, broke his silence and spoke openly about being abused, it might give others the courage to come forward.
So Waks contacted The Age. He gave an interview saying that he had been abused by two Orthodox men in Melbourne without naming either of his abusers. He appealed for all victims, not just of Kramer, to contact the police.
Waks told the newspaper: “The main reason for the silence is the culture in this segment of the Jewish community to keep these types of issues quiet.” He said that he personally knew many abuse victims who had not come forward because of the stigma associated with abuse.
More victims stepped forward, providing evidence that top Chabad officials in Australia mishandled decades of abuse. Allegations were ignored or covered up. At least one molester was spirited out of the country.
Less than two months after Waks spoke to The Age, Australian police arrested Cyprys.
In 2012, Waks founded a not-for-profit organization called Tzedek, which means justice, to support victims of abuse as well as to counsel Jewish organizations on ways to prevent abuse and to protect children.
The following year, Cyprys was sentenced to eight years in jail for raping a 15-year-old boy and for sexually assaulting eight others. That same year, Kramer, who had been extradited to Australia from America, was sentenced to three years in jail for sexually assaulting four boys.
I have been to Velvel Serebryanski’s apartment in Brooklyn before.
When the Australian abuse scandal began to unfold in 2012, I wrote a story for the Forward about Serebryanski and Waks.
Serebryanski, who goes by the name Zev Sero in New York, did not deny the allegations. But he declined to speak on the record.
(When I returned to his apartment on May 15 this year to see if he would be willing to speak on-the-record about Waks’s allegations, Serebryanski did not appear to be home. He did not respond to an email sent to his Facebook account.)
As I watch Waks try to coax Serebryanski out of his apartment, I wonder whether he would have had more success if he had come without a camera crew.
Waks returns to Serebryanski’s open window.
“I know you can hear me,” Waks shouts. “Your neighbors know now. The question is, should I go to shul and let them know? You can come out and talk.”
A man who looks to be in his late 50s walks up the stoop to Serebryanski’s building. Waks asks if he knows Serebryanski. I cannot make out the entire conversation through my headphones, but it sounds as though the neighbor isn’t pleased with Waks’s behavior.
When another neighbor, a man who looks to be in his 20s, walks up the stoop, Waks tries to engage him in a conversation about Serebryanski. The man turns his key in the door. “I don’t want to talk to you, man,” he says, as he slips inside.
Waks acknowledges into the lapel microphone that it’s uncomfortable for people to be confronted on their doorstep by a man with a camera crew telling them their neighbor is a pedophile.
Soon, the older of the two neighbors re-emerges from the building. He is wearing a faded red baseball cap. He sits on the stoop, opens a blue ring binder and proceeds to page through it as though it is perfectly natural that a few feet away there is a camera crew and a man telling strangers about a pedophile on the block.
Waks approaches the man. The neighbor says he will talk to Waks, but not on camera.
The microphone picks up the conversation, but it’s hard to hear the man’s responses. He sounds skeptical about Waks’s claims that Serebryanski is a pedophile. When Waks reveals that he is one of Serebryanski’s victims, the man asks how long ago the abuse took place.
The conversation continues. Then Waks says: “Really? I have just told you there is a pedophile here and you are not concerned?”
Waks tells the neighbor he is trying to raise awareness about abuse.
“So you are not here as an objective journalist,” the neighbor responds. He accuses Waks of not being truthful.
Waks walks away. He is shocked that the neighbor seems to be suggesting that Waks should just let the issue rest.
“I don’t think I can let it be,” Waks says. “But it seems [Serebryanski] has got the support of a neighbor at least.”
Waks heads up the street to talk to a group of Hispanic people, including Torres, who have gathered near the corner.
I could follow but, for now, I am more intrigued by the neighbor.
It took a government inquiry to fully expose the failure of Chabad’s rabbinic leadership in Australia.
Over 10 days this February, the Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sex Abuse heard from a succession of victims and their families. They testified about the Yeshivah Centre’s unwillingness to take abuse claims seriously, about rabbinic pressure not to go to the police, about the intimidation of families who chose to speak out.
Leading rabbis were grilled over their handling of claims, the shunning and intimidation of victims and their attitudes toward abuse.
At the heart of the scandal was Rabbi Yitzchok Dovid Groner, the longtime head of the Yeshivah Centre, who died in 2008.
The commission heard how, facing a backlash from victims’ families, Groner bought Kramer a plane ticket to Israel in the early 1990s. The commission also heard how Groner ignored numerous complaints about Cyprys during the 1980s and 1990s.
One mother testified that she reported Cyprys abusing her son in 1986 and was assured by Groner that he would take care of it. She later learned that Cyprys continued to abuse her son for a further two years.
In another case, a student who complained of being abused by Cyprys was expelled from the school. Meanwhile, Cyprys, who pleaded guilty to indecently assaulting the boy in 1992, continued to be employed as a security guard at the Yeshivah Centre for an additional decade.
As a result of what transpired at the commission hearings, several leading rabbis lost their posts.
Rabbi Abraham Glick, who was principal of Yeshivah College between 1986 and 2007, when much of the molestation took place, resigned his position as a teacher at the school.
Rabbi Meir Shlomo Kluwgant, president of the Organisation of Rabbis of Australasia, stepped down from his post after a text message he sent to the editor of the Australian Jewish News, calling Zephaniah Waks “a lunatic on the fringe,” was read out to the commission.
Glick and Kluwgant did not respond to requests for comment.
In Sydney, Rabbi Yosef Feldman resigned as a director of the Yeshiva Centre. In an email, Feldman pointed the Forward to press coverage reporting his position that he had resigned not because he did anything wrong, but as a result of his testimony to the commission being misrepresented in the media.
Rabbi Yehoshua Smuckler, the current principal of Yeshivah College, did not respond to a request for comment.
Waks saw the commission not just as a vindication of his campaign, but as a form of closure.
The way Waks sees it, he was made to suffer three times. First when he was abused. Then, when the abuse was covered up. Finally, by communal intimidation and harassment.
“Closure means the ability for me to move forward without being stuck too much in the past, letting go of a lot of the hurt, pain and suffering,” Waks says.
‘I think they should leave him alone and not harass him,” says Serebryanski’s neighbor, who declines to give his name.
He tells me that Serebryanski has been “a good member of the community” for more than 20 years. “To fly halfway around the world to shame the guy seems inappropriate to me,” the neighbor says.
Most media stories about Orthodox sex abuse focus on the tight-knit, insular, ultra-Orthodox community. But this neighbor is most probably a liberal, Jewish — he recognized the Forward when I identified myself — resident of Park Slope, a famously progressive section of Brooklyn.
“To come to the building and start making allegations to neighbors suggests someone very subjective in viewpoint and someone who wants to harass more than enlighten or caution,” the neighbor said.
As the neighbor is speaking I notice that the curtain in Serebryanski’s window is no longer fluttering. It is pulled right back into the darkest recesses of the shadow as though by a piece of string. Or a hand.
In the dark I think I can make out Serebryanski’s profile. The neighbor, who is facing me, says Waks can’t simply turn up “throwing inflammatory terms around to people he doesn’t know.”
I step away from the stoop to find out how Waks’s mission is going. Waks tells me that the Hispanic neighbors say at least a couple of kids in the area have complained that Serebryanski stares at them and makes them feel uncomfortable.
“My concerns are heightened and justified,” Waks says. But he admits there is only so much he can do.
The curtain returns to fluttering in the breeze. Waks resumes telling any neighbors who come out onto the street that they are living next door to a pedophile.
“One of the intended actions was successful,” Waks says, referring to his warning to neighbors.
It is obvious that Serebryanski will not come out of his apartment to speak to Waks or to the show’s director. After about a half hour, the team moves back to the street corner.
Waks says he pities Serebryanski. He has always thought of him as a sad individual.
Waks said as much when he filed his police report in 1996 detailing how both Serebryanski and Cyprys had abused him.
Nothing came of the report. Waks still can’t quite understand why the police didn’t investigate Cyprys further, especially in light of his guilty plea a few years earlier. “I do regard it as a failure of sorts by Victoria Police,” he says.
Serebryanski is a different matter. He was already living in America by that time.
That night in the women’s gallery of the Yeshivah Centre, according to Waks’s police report, Serebryanski told the boy: “This isn’t for a place of worship.”
Serebryanski led Waks to a bathroom on the same floor where the assault continued.
In his report to police, Waks couldn’t recall how many more times Serebryanski abused him. He thought it was maybe a couple more.
Two decades later, Victoria Police are still interested in speaking to Serebryanski. In August, 2014, Waks received a letter from Victoria Police saying they were investigating Waks’s allegations.
There wasn’t enough evidence to extradite Serebryanski. But if he set foot in Australia, the police said, he would be arrested and interviewed.
That August was the same month as the premier of “Code of Silence.”
The documentary film followed Waks for 18 months as he waged a personal struggle against the abuse cover-up at the Yeshivah Centre.
The film also focused on the consequences for Waks’s family, in particular his father, Zephaniah, who was denounced by communal leaders, shunned in synagogue and who lost most of his friends.
By the film’s end, Manny had relocated to France and his mother and father had moved to Israel.
The film’s producers recognized that the dramatic testimony delivered at the Royal commission hearings in 2015 might provide material for a follow-up documentary.
The ABC, which had aired the first film, commissioned a sequel.
In addition to the hearings, the new film would follow Waks as he took a global anti-abuse initiative to Jewish communities overseas, meeting abuse victims in America and confronting his first abuser, Serebryanski.
Waks arrived at the Forward offices in New York on May 8, a couple of days before his visit to confront Serebryanski in Brooklyn.
Waks is tanned and about medium height and build. He was wearing a blue check shirt and black-rimmed glasses.
Waks is unassuming, warm and friendly. When he discusses sex abuse he is, more often than not, earnest rather than angry. He is so used to being interviewed that it is sometimes hard to tell whether you are speaking to Waks the individual or Waks the campaigner. It was harder still that particular day, since most of our conversations were filmed for the documentary.
Waks said he was not sure what to expect from his potential confrontation with Serebryanski.
He said that Cyprys had never apologized for what he did to victims. Waks wondered whether, if Serebryanski acknowledged what he had done and apologized, Waks might not want to “pursue justice” through the courts.
A couple of days after Waks’s attempt to confront Serebryanski, I catch up with Waks by phone. He is still in New York. But that evening he is flying with the film crew to Los Angeles where he will meet with abuse advocates and victims.
Waks also plans to meet with a Jewish group to discuss financing for a study to look at Jewish communal resources for preventing and dealing with abuse.
The ripples from the Australian abuse scandal reach California too.
In 2001, Mordechai Yomtov, a former student of the Yeshivah Centre who was accused of abusing a younger student there, was sentenced to one year in prison after pleading guilty to molesting three boys, aged 8 to 10, at a Chabad school in Los Angeles.
Last year, a Los Angeles resident, Daniel Hayman, pleaded guilty in an Australian court to indecently assaulting a 14-year-old boy in the late 1980s in Sydney. In return for his guilty plea, Hayman received a 19-month suspended sentence.
While Waks was in New York, he also met with Australian victims of abuse and with Jewish groups. He even secured an audience with Rabbi Mendel Sharfstein, the director of operations at Chabad’s world headquarters in Brooklyn.
Following the Royal Commission hearings, Chabad published a lengthy statement, expressing remorse for the children who were harmed and reiterating the importance of reporting abuse to the police.
Waks said he was impressed with the Chabad leadership’s openness to discuss the issue with him in New York. He said that he hopes to see even more willingness to combat abuse in the future.
Although he wasn’t even halfway through his journey, Waks said the trip so far had been physically, emotionally and mentally exhausting. But he felt compelled to continue.
“The show must go on,” Waks said. “I don’t feel I have a choice.”
Full article here: http://forward.com/news/national/308681/25-years-later-manny-waks-is-on-a-quest-to-confront-his-abuser/
Chief Rabbi Ephraim Mirvis, Statement on Sexual Abuse, Office of the Chief Rabbi
/in International /by SOL ReformJean Hopfensperger, Minnesota Child Victims Act continues to rock Catholic Church, Star Tribune
/in Minnesota /by SOL ReformFallout continues to jolt Catholic institutions across Minnesota as a landmark law permitting lawsuits for older claims of clergy sex abuse marks its second anniversary this week.
Just last week the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis removed a priest from active ministry in Richfield — bringing to 69 the number of accused priests it has identified since the law was passed.
Earlier this month a young Hibbing priest was arrested and jailed for sexual misconduct with three girls, reflecting Catholics’ heightened awareness of contacting law enforcement, not just the church.
A Catholic nun and her religious order were sued last month by a Shakopee man for sexual improprieties, a sign of the law’s widening impact.
The current trial of former priest Francis Hoefgen in Dakota County — a rare criminal prosecution of a priest for child sex abuse — was sparked by an alleged victim emboldened by the new law.
“This is the biggest shake-up in the history of the Catholic Church in Minnesota,” said Charles Reid, a professor of civil and canon law at the University of St. Thomas. “The church has always been a powerful institution in the state — just look the height of the cathedral compared to the State Capitol. What we’re seeing is a humbling of that.”
Child Victims Act
44 Total lawsuits filed across the state of Minnesota
175 Lawsuits plus notices of claims against Archdiocese
100 Priests in lawsuits and notices of claims statewide
180 Priest names made public by dioceses, archdiocese, St. John’s Abbey
Victim attorney estimates
In a statement Friday Archbishop John Nienstedt said the archdiocese is committed to helping abuse victims.
“Our first priority is helping victims and survivors, and we are committed to doing that regardless of any statute of limitations,” he said. “The Archdiocese is committed to providing compensation and services in a fair and just manner to those who have been harmed, and making sure nothing like this ever happens again.”
Historic new law
The 2013 Minnesota Child Victims Act lifted the statute of limitations for child abuse cases, opening a three-year window for people to sue the church over incidents that happened years ago.
Until then, individuals sexually abused as children had until age 24 to sue their abusers. But victims’ advocates had argued it could take years, even decades, for a survivor to come to terms with the trauma.
Today nearly 50 lawsuits have been filed in Minnesota’s five dioceses and the archdiocese, implicating about 100 priests, according to lawyers for alleged victims. The archdiocese is facing about 175 lawsuits or notices of claims, said victims’ attorney Jeff Anderson.
The people stepping forward say they were abused inside churches, schools, family homes and beyond from about the 1950s to 2010. They were altar boys, Catholic school kids, youngsters whose parents welcomed priests into their homes. For many, the opportunity to seek civil justice has been life changing.
“It was like a 1,000-pound elephant lifted off my chest,” said Doug Devorak, a Shakopee man who sued the Diocese of New Ulm last month, stating he had been repeatedly abused by a sister at St. Michael’s Catholic School in Madison in the 1960s.
The legal action — or threat of — has become an engine of institutional change. It has forged new protocols for church response to abuse complaints and, in some cases, made public documents that prove the abuse was not a lie.
More than 60,000 pages, ranging from personnel files to psychological reports, have been released by the archdiocese and the Winona diocese, said Anderson. Every diocese’s website now lists contact information for abuse victims. Click on the archdiocese website, for example, and the box in the top corner states “Your First Call Should Be to Law Enforcement.”
It’s a sea change from the church practice of trying to quietly settle abuse claims out of court and out of sight of law enforcement, victims said.
“The awareness factor is now front and center,” said Bob Schwiderski, a longtime advocate for abuse survivors. “We now know you are supposed to report to law enforcement if you suspect abuse.”
Meanwhile, about 180 priests have been publicly identified by the church as credibly accused child sex offenders, attorneys said. One priest on the Crookston Diocese list, the Rev. Joseph Jeyapaul, was extradited from India and pleaded guilty to criminal sexual misconduct Friday.
Bankruptcy complications
In year one of the Child Victims Act, a Ramsey District Court judge ordered the archdiocese to release the names of credibly accused priests it had held since 2004, as well as its internal files revealing its handling of abuse complaints.
Year two has seen lawyers focused on prying loose similar documents outstate — as well as on the fallout from the archdiocese bankruptcy filing.
The January bankruptcy suspended future lawsuits and trials that could have put priests, victims and archdiocese officials in the witness stand. Now alleged victims of archdiocese priests are urged to step forward, not to sue but to be part of a settlement.
That deeply disappoints Patrick Noacker, attorney for a man whose archdiocese lawsuit was slated for trial just days before bankruptcy was filed. Said Noacker: “The process was short-circuited by bankruptcy. Bankruptcy doesn’t protect kids. Trials protect kids.”
The bankruptcy, coupled with the steady revelations about abuse, has been difficult for many Catholics in the pews, especially the older faithful, said the Rev. Tom Walker, of Saint Ambrose of Woodbury.
“The result for some people is they don’t know what to think,’’ said Walker. “It’s left them confused and even angry about what’s happened.’’
The bankruptcy also created two different deadlines for filing claims, depending on where victims lived. The judge granted the archdiocese’s request for an Aug. 3, 2015, deadline for archdiocese victims. Individuals suing priests anywhere else in the state have until May 2016. Ditto for individuals suing religious orders.
It was the first time in the nation that a court had shortened the deadline, prompting criticism of unequal justice for Minnesota victims.
Challenges remain
In spite of its successes, the law cannot address other key protection issues, such as the training and evaluation of seminarians, chancery leadership and the church’s “culture,” said Jennifer Haselberger, the archdiocese lawyer whose revelations of chancery coverups coincided with the new law.
Anderson said his biggest disappointment is the “seeming lack of rigor and vigor of the Ramsey County attorney’s office.” He said he’s turned over thousands of pages of files on priest offenders.
“To date, none have been charged,” said Anderson. David Clohessy, national director of Survivors Network of Those Abused by Priests, urged the church to release not just the names of accused priests, but details. When and where did the abuse happen? When did the church become aware?
In the year ahead, expect to hear more about clergy misconduct outstate and in religious orders. Bankruptcy settlement details. More clergy names revealed. More victims stepping forward.
“What you’re seeing is a cascading of justice,” said Sen. Ron Latz, DFL-St. Louis Park, the chief Senate author of the law. “We already knew there were a lot of cases out there that just hadn’t surfaced yet, because of the statute of limitations in effect. We didn’t appreciate how many cases there were, and how many people would step forward.”
Minnesota Child Victims Act continues to rock Catholic Church – StarTribune